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The Nature of Happiness - 20 Nature Based Things You Can Do To Improve Your Happiness

According to nature's law, the natural state of all things is a state of flux, for humans the centre point around which all things fluctuate, is happiness. We do everything we can to fight that flux in happiness even resorting to resisting change, taking drugs, eating obsessively and creating false relationships that are not loving but sexually stimulating. We do whatever we can to argue with the flux of happiness and yet, we can't win. Nature's Law governs the entire universe, let alone your life. It governs every molecule, let alone your happiness. So why fight it? Here are 20 ways to improve your happiness by going with the flow living as nature intended and using the flux of happiness to improve the quality of your life.

 

Are You The Happiest Person You Know?

Are you the happiest person you know? Are you the happiest person in your office? Are you the happiest person in your family?

We have to be careful because if we are not the happiest person we know we will usually gravitate to those who look happier in order to become happy. This usually leads to misguided choices.

Many people will say I am happier person because I am with my partner. Or, they might even say I am happier because I have my children. This form of happiness is a dependency that creates all manner of complications in relationships and business.

Happiness is an obligation not a choice. An unhappy person will seek happiness and sometimes in the most dangerous and self depreciating ways. A person who is not happy develops an ego in order to protect their unhappiness from the stimulation of anything that reminds them of how they really feel. The ego serves to protect us from feeling our own unhappiness.

 So, beneath the surface of life is the true measure of whether we are happy not. A person who is at heart, unhappy, will overwork, over eat, be stressed, over try, find it difficult to sleep, and in general overcompensate.

Therefore, finding happiness within ourselves is a foundation of a great life. It is not selfish because our own happiness magnifies to others while our unhappiness sucks the energy from others.

 So we have to be honest with ourselves; are we the happiest person we know and do we want to stay that way?

Maintaining the standards

If you have a relationship, work in a team or just live alone for that matter, you'll understand the magic of maintenance. My friend doesn't. He spends more maintaining his car than he does on his relationship. I remember that phase of my first marriage well.

Maintenance isn't valentines day! Valentines day is the equivalent of the smash repair shop. Maintenance is 360 days a year. Yes, there are a few days off - like birthdays and Christmas and other special breaks where you get to indulge yourself, But not many.

Maintenance is as much about avoiding damage as it is about putting in more fuel. I mean, you need to put petrol in the car constantly or it'll fail. It's the same with love and business teams, you need to reward and recognize good things. Reinforce positives.

But if you put sugar in the petrol tank of the car, it fails immediately. This is the sort of maintenance and care many people fail to recognize. I'll list a few "sugar in the petrol tanks" firstly for love and secondly for business teams.

1: Sugar in the petrol tank of love

Wanting to improve your partner by making suggestions they didn't ask for
Comparing your partner to some tv person and your partner coming off second best
Thinking about how much pleasure you get rather than give (always less)
Giving affection only when you feel the need to get some back.

2. Sugar in the petrol tank of BUSINESS

Not wanting to improve your team and not making suggestions they didn't ask for
Not comparing your team to some ideal and thinking your team is doing great
Thinking about how much pleasure you give rather than what pleasure they give you
Giving acknowledgement when you don't feel the need to get some back

What can you see above that's absolute genius?

Teaching The World a New Way to Think

Teaching the world a new way to think

The laws of nature are not just a modification of current thinking. They are an extreme departure from it.

EVOLVE YOURSELF - STAY - ONE STEP AHEAD

 

In a tiny village hidden from the advances of civilisation a community exists untouched by modern life. Fire is lit by striking rocks and food is picked from fertile forests. One could say, this community has never evolved. Is it good? Some think they should be left in their ignorance, a sort of bliss. But with child mortality over 50%, and life expectancy of 42, the idealisation of the un-evolved business, individual or community is it's inevitable destruction. When Evolve doesn't happen, change comes, and change means a lot of turbulence in a very short time: not fun. Evolve means immunity from change.

Adaptation means change happens amd then you adapt to it. A business or team that's in adaptation mode is being led by the nose through to the future. Dragged kicking and screaming through the process of evolving by competitive forces. 

Innerwealth teaches the 100% opposite. Innerwealth means ONE STEP AHEAD ... proactive prediction of market competitive force, person demands and consequential action. Simplistically, ONE STEP AHEAD means trigger the cause and benefit from effect rather than wait for the effect and then adapt. Eating ice cream makes you fat, so, instead of recognising you've become filled with mucous and you're getting fat before you stop eating ice cream, don't eat it and don't suffer the consequences.

LIVE LOVE LIFE

The best advice I can give anyone about relationships that already exist is "avoid complacency"

Complacency is the enemy of great love and long relationships and it's so easy to do.

Complacency means you start to trust that the person you are with is yours. My wife, my husband, my partner.

Remind yourself that they are not yours. They stay because it feels right, and because they love you, but if you crap on the lounge that love will soon become second to self preservation.

Crapping on the lounge suite might be extreme, but, getting fat, lazy, using bad language, being disrespectful and in general taking your partner for granted might be the real home of the Devil if there is one.

Hell on earth is when you take your partner for granted, because in doing this, what you are clearly demonstrating is that you think you can take life for granted.

But life can be snuffed in seconds. And all that "taking for granted" can become a regret.

I find that it takes a lot of courage not to fall into the trap of waiting for February 14th in order to remember how important your lover is. You have to admit you need someone in your life. That's vulnerable and possibly not very spiritual according to some texts. But love is need and need is love. It's human and you just need to trust that if you follow your VIP (Vision, Inspiration and Purpose) and never take your partner for granted, complacency will not set in. There's no need to worry.

With Love

Chris

Five Minute Retreat

 

Urban Forest ... Live Wise Live Nature

What do monks, priests, yogis, spiritual gurus, indigenous peoples, shaman, healers, medicine men and great entrepreneurs have in common?The one thing they have in common is that they go to nature to think, prepare, vision, clear their mind and get guidance. They go to mountains, oceans, forests, lakes.They go to these places to retreat.

They retreat because in the city it’s hard to think clearly, but if every time you want to rejuvenate your mind you jump a bus to a forest, you’ll be taking more time traveling than doing those things you wish to retreat to find out about.So, the secret is a five minute, anytime you want it, retreat

I Love Nature

City Life with the Benefits of Being in Nature

Millions of people crammed into cities and it’s growing fast and city people are different: more competitive, challenged, self determined and ambitious. It’s all wonderful, but there’s a cost.

People are different in nature. More balanced, creative, generous and understanding. In nature people still compete, face challenge, are self determined and ambitious, but it’s different. Something special is there and this is what I want to bring back into city life.

We go to nature to relax and balance our life, to play and be with family and friends. We inherently know the benefits of being in nature, and yet, when we go to work or close the doors in our homes, we so easily forget, and then we become synthetic people, inventing our own reality, emotionally disturbed and ego-centric. It doesn’t have to be that harsh.

I went bush and discovered what makes people so different in nature. It’s not just nature and clean air and trees or the lack of invasion by commercial intensity, it’s something else. When we go to nature, somehow, we tune into that radio station that is nature, we get smarter, better and this, I believe is the essence of it. We intuitively know the Laws of Nature and feel good, do good and be good people when we remember them.

I’ve distilled the laws of nature into packages that can come home with you from nature. Packages that, I hope, will help you run your work life better, your health better and be a better person in your world. It’s like taking a permanent holiday, living and working like you are in nature but doing it right here in the city.

Sea change is nice, green change is great, but why run? Why not reap the gifts of the social, educational and financial benefits of being in a city AND have the gifts of living in nature. That’s my promise.. a permanent holiday retreat right here, right in the middle of your real, contributing, exciting, artistic and entrepreneurial city life.

 

City Life - Nature's Law

Hello 

I want to give you a little present.

You know people are different in nature, right? I meant they are usually more tolerant, kind, creative and generous, well at least that’s what I found after running many retreats for stressed corporate people.

So, I went and found out why… and made some Amazon books and corporate training programs about it.

The whole idea is why wait? I mean, if people are great out in nature, why not find out what makes it so, and bring it back to the urban jungle – like work and family. That way, we can be happier, healthier people without having to pack our bags and go on holiday to recuperate. We can live in the city and have a country life.

Like when my clients come trekking in Nepal or Bhutan, they’re really happy, inspired in fact but I always ask them if they’d love to feel like that everyday when they get back home and the answer is a resounding, “yes please.”

• You can find the laws of nature explained in my book set “Nature’s Laws of Life”
• Add my blog to your RSS Feed or daily email to just keep in touch and stay Natured-up
• Make a big commitment and come and learn, be guided and coached so you can help others.. Nature’s laws really do solve problems and heal hurts. Getting out in Nature in the CIty is the first step

So, here we go, join me, and thousands of others on this wonderful earth who do really love nature and want to live in the city with the gifts of nature.

 

Willpower

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How One Lady Turned Her Life and Fortunes Around

Do you run a business? Self Employed or have an Executive role in a major company? If so, this article is for you. It explains how one lady turned her life and fortunes around and how you might avoid needing to.

Jenny was really bereft. In another language, totally stuffed. Her business collapsed leaving her with a huge pile of hard work, massive worries and a personal accountability way beyond what appeared to be her means. She couldn't even pay my consulting fee, but at least she was up front about it. 

 

28 Ways to Stop Complicating Your Life

Life is not complicated.  We are complicated.  When we stop doing the wrong things and start doing the right things, life is simple. Original Article Here ...

So starting today…

Managing You for Better Relationships

As a business person, leader, entrepreneur, parent or partner your responsibilities are vast, diverse, often overwhelming. At Innerwealth we understand this complexity more than most but we don't want to become another "should" organisation... telling people how to live their life or prioritise things is absolutely not our mission. We think all those are personal choices we all make that vary from time to time based on circumstances. 

However, we do bring essential guidance to you on what is bull s...., what is myth and what is real in self management based on Nature's Universal Laws and therefore not on trend, fashion, emotion or rhetoric. So, in this post I'm going to create a little summary for you of exactly what Managing You looks like from Nature's Viewpoint. 

The Pain of Regret Outweighs the Pain of Discipline

When a fat man puts another cream cake in his mouth, he feels like the pain of discipline is greater than the pain of regret. But 2-3 months later, it's the opposite.

That's the danger of the power of NOW.. right now, the pain of regret is a long way off and to some extent, irrelevant. 

The key to all this is Vision, Inspiration and Purpose (VIP) because while you have a vision, and an inspiration and a purpose greater than yourself, the pain of regret is already with you right now, in this moment and it's far higher than the pain of discipline. 

Finding a Relationship is Easy... Staying in a Good One.. That's the Challenge

Plant a seed in the garden, pee on it, and it will grow. It's nature, doing its thing. 

Plant two seeds in the garden side by side, and they too will grow, the only question is how fast?

Finding a relationship is easy, staying in one is also easy. But staying and keeping your relationship healthy requires some commitment, especially after the honeymoon period wears off.

Here are the major relationship killers in order of priority from the most severe to the least:

1. Tiredness from work or sport
2. Stress from anything (worry and anxiety)
3. Lost Vision, Inspiration and Purpose (complacency and boredom)
4. Repetitiveness
5. Lost self respect (letting the standards drop in order to keep your partner happy)
6. Financial Stress
7. Children consuming time and energy
8. Alcohol 
9. Illhealth and obesity
10. Drive and Ambition (what causes work success kills relationship success)
11. Lost libido (usually issues of unrespolved personl conflict)

All can be solved .. at the cause level not just at the effect level.

 

Why Are You Single?

Why are you single? Because you are boring...

Why are you boring, because you dropped your Vision

Why did you drop your vision? 

Usually a big dissappointment is blamed, like a break up or something like that.

But the truth is always, that you lost your vision, and then got a break-up.

A person with a real inspired vision is magnetic. No one would or could break up from that person.

So, if you are single you lost your vision.

But if you think a vision is just a wild punt into the future, you are kidding yourself

Vision is VIP...

Vision ... a clear communication about what you are creating in the future

Inspiration... Something you'll put your heart and soul into

Purpose ... Something you'd be happy to die doing...

If relationship and children become more important than your Vision, you're in a dangerous land of mixed messages and divergent priorities. Better to find your VIP and include your children rather than gravitate to the easy way out and make them the focus of your choices.

If you are single its because you are boring yourself to death with logic, hard work and lost vision.

Your spirit, heart and your Innerwealth feed on Vision, Inspiration and Purpose....

 

 

Vision Quest for Couples for 2012

For those who follow Innerwealth... here's a simple vision quest for couples that can be done in a few hours before Jan 1. 2012... Enjoy

40% of Marriages last.

Therefore, 60% of marriages fail. 

Of those 60% - 100% said theirs would not be the marriage to fail. 

Marriage failure is not something we plan for when we marry but we can prevent quite easily.

Marriage survival decreases with time. The odds of a marriage lasting longer than 5 years are 70%, 10 years are 50% and 13 years, less than 40%.

What does time have to do with love and relationship? Well, during that time one or both parties in a relationship will lose or achieve their vision... and here starts the problem. No vision, no relationship.

Innerwealth

I once hear a woman speaker cause an audience to cry with laughter by asking them to write down the traits of their perfect partner, then she asked them all to imagine that person in the flesh and ask "would that person go out with you?"

In the same way I ask people, "would somebody else love to live in your inner world?"

What goes on in our head and heart is what goes on in our relationship. We can fake a personality for just so long before that inner world starts to creap out and bore people to death or drive them away with anger.

One lady I dated was so loving but after a while she became insanely jealous. He inner world was really insecure and self deprecating so that's what oozed out after a time.

Innerwealth is about harvesting the inner life so that somebody wants to live in it. Whether its at work as a leader or at home as a lover, our inner world comes through eventually and people either want to live in it or change it. The latter is impossible.

So, for 2012 spend the time to nurture and develop your Innerwealth ... It'll make a world of difference for you and those who share your life.

Happy New Year 2012

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Top Five Regrets of the Dying

Top Five Regrets of the Dying
By Bronnie Ware

For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.
People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learned never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

Is it a choice

Some people think what I talk about is an optional extra but when mental health, disease and relationship heartache are in the skyrocket of increase, it's not.

Sacred Places ... Why They Are So Important

I love this special place, up in the Himalayas of Nepal.. I still love it after 50 trips to it. But I wonder if I moved there and could walk out my front door to see it, I'd love it as much?

It takes 10 days of walking up and down hills at high altitude to find this special place. On the way, I pass monks and monasteries, Sherpa families, and many wonderful vistas. So, maybe the process of getting there is as important as the being there? 

Love Nature - love you

Have you ever asked yourself why most meditation monasteries are out in the wilderness?

And why people in the city argue a lot?

I guess the answer might make you feel tempted to go live in the countryside?

But a person without mind control and humility in the countryside or out in a meditation ashram in the wilderness will have more trouble than a person in the city. They just start arguing with themselves instead of a partner or someone else.

The great thing about the wilderness is that we can't blame somebody for our arguments.

In nature with a good teacher, we become wiser.

Inspiration has its roots in nature.

Music inspires us because it simply reminds us of the rhythm and love of nature

Children disconnected from nature become self obsessed and seek short term gratification.

People at work disconnected from nature "create their own reality"

How can we bring more inspiration to an office or home?

By sharing a common love of nature.

People are different in nature.. More inspired, more creative, more generous, less argumentative.

The love of nature has only one enemy... Separation.. And separation comes from our mind

Separation from nature can happen even in the wilderness...

Separation has four potential causes:

1. Fear or guilt
2. Self
3. Motivation
4. Gender

Our attachments to any or all of these lead us to separation from nature, even in the wilderness.

You can call them all... Stress

The Laws of Nature calm your stress and help you feel connected to nature, and therefore be inspired.

Love nature

A person who cannot love a leaf, cannot love another. That had been an age old fact ... To know what love is one needs to learn detachment

Seven, 7 Minute Things To Do To Inspire Your Relationship

Love is the most natural thing on earth, and yet, we screw it up over and over and over. Ever asked yourself why?

No one person got into a relationship thinking it was going to end. But they do, and they usually do so, with amazing speed and shocking surprise. Why?

Because we don't sweat the small stuff.. Ya, that's right, the very opposite of what makes a great business person. If we don't sweat the small stuff in relationships, and keep an eagle eye on what's going on, the momentum for a crash and burn, slice and dice will built to unstoppable levels. Then, the old knife comes out and we've got to cut the chord.. It's all preventable with a little of Nature's Magic.

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Chris

Become an Evolutionary .. Killing Off the Work Life Balance Myth

If you are an entrepreneur, business person or small business owner, you need to read this ... it's about containing the stresses of business so they don't come home and mess with your family, or visa versa. it's an important facility for all who want a good quality of life.

It's Up To You... Single, Love or Struggle

When I wrote my article last week about how long it takes to get back into a relationship after a smash, crash and burn many people emailed me saying something like... "that's hard work."

Well, of course it's hard work, and potentially it's dealing with the highest probability of why those people are single. They'd prefer to be right, than happy.

I used to think that feeling sorry for myself would attract a mate. It worked to an extent. I mean there are a lot of people out in the world who just love to rescue men who feel wounded. The problem is, that when they help heal the wound, they don't like the power the guy gets back, they prefered a wounded guy to a healthy one.

Walking wounded doesn't create great love affairs. In fact the opposite.

Relationships in 2012 - The Need to Do It Differently

 Life is going to change for everyone in 2012... primarily driven by a global drive for productivity and efficiencies in middle management, white colar workers in Europe, America and Asia. This in turn has the potential to drive a huge amount of "work life Balance" back to domestic santuaries. Hence, relationships are going to be threatened with stress.

The way to deal with this is to get those productivity gains in your work life by doing things differently. We achieve this shift by denouncing the idea of work life balance as antique and irrelevant in a modern era of productivity gain.

Work work balance, life life balance are the cornerstones of the future and these all begin at an individual level. Organisations, companies and business cannot be held accountable for individual imbalance. Poor productivity models, low self-leadership skills and sticking with old ways of handling stress of work are individual choices. They need to change if relationships are going to maintain or improve.

 

Judgement

How we judge the world, a situation, our neighbour, past, present and future determines so much of our life-quality ... and there are varying opinions about this. The most fundamentalist person has the greatest judgement and the most loving person has the least.. let's explore the process of moving to a more loving stand on judgements we all have.

Lets hear first from some other really wise teachers

"Often times, when we occupy the space of 'I'm right and you're wrong' it keeps us from seeing our own responsibility in matters. When we judge others' foibles and personality traits, what does it really say about us? What can we do to identify and get rid of judgment in ourselves and in our lives?" Borrowed  from the BLOG of Gwenth Paltrow.. http://www.goop.com/

Are You A Branch or a Leaf in Nature's Hierarchy?

All human challenge comes from disharmony with nature's laws. They are universal and simple, yet, we get off track so easily. 

Most process that teaches you how to get back on track are synthetic and complicated or, in some way, over simplified. 

I don't want to teach you either of those.

Here are the ways to get back on track when you slip off. And I mean when, not if with the greatest respect.

How Long Must I Remain Single After a Breakup?

This is an age old question. One in which social norms seem to override reality. 

The answer, in short, "nature abhors a vacuum"

So, the question is better asked "how long does it take me to let go of the past?"

And

"What does letting go the past, really mean"

I will start with the last question first.

Letting go the past, in this case your ex partner, takes a few hours if you are completely honest with yourself. Of course, that's not always as easy as it sounds. If you ask a person to put their hand in a hot fire, they'll usually say no. So, when we come to letting go somebody which requires us to go into our pain and attachments, we often try to avoid it.

Why Inspiration Some Background For Relationships

 

When I first started searching for a better way to be in the world the smorgasbord of offerings was so tempting, I think I just pigged out on every morsel of human development training available.

I did yoga, zen, meditation, and tai chi, shiatsu, read over 10,000 books and attended hundreds of public seminars, workshops and retreats. I loved every minute of it and met some delicious and wonderful people there. I partnered with many and had some of the best times of my life.

 

What Happens if Your Partner is Not As Inspired as You?

It's rare to find a couple who are equally inspired. In most cases, one is inspired and the other wishes they were, or, wishes you weren't.

So, it's a common problem. What do you do when you are inspired and your partner isn't?

The Nature of Inspired Relationships

G'day,

People are different in nature: more generous, more creative, more open hearted.

This is what the nature of love is all about. It means bringing those wonderful qualities that make great relationships even better back from nature into our lives.

I invite your comments: but not self promotion or negative born again fanatisism, this is not the place for that... this blog is a celebration of love, relationships and longevity in family health and happiness.

Yours In Nature.

Chris

A Delicious Himalayan Recipe

I'd love to share with you a fantastic recipe I learned from a Nepalese Monk... Would you love to try it tonight?

 

Before you get in the door tonight you'll need to get a few things from the supermarket... I'll list them later

First between work and home you need to stop and take a breather... preferably not a cigarette or a beer or coffee or anything for that matter

Simply on the way home from work you need to STOP.

Inspiration or …..

If you choose inspiration as your aspiration, it becomes an invitation for others.
No perspiration in inspiration, nor desperation at its worst.
Constipation is lost inspiration and hesitation, procrastination and cogitation are too.
Imagination comes from inspiration,
Transformation comes from inspiration,
And masturbation or self glorification and motivation are simply the desire to find inspiration
With Innerwealth I'm giving you and invitation,
a moment of contemplation
deep soul authentication
of the potential in you
for Inspiration
because when you live as nature intended, you get what nature intended
Inspiration.

Inspiration in Life and Love

We use words like heart, mind, soul, spirit and love and yet, it is hard to understand what these very personal impressions of life really mean in terms of outcome and activity. One can say, "I love" and yet, the course of action that is driven by that love can be quite obsessive, dangerous and harmful. Sometimes a person misinterprets these words as a permission to act unwisely toward others.

In fact, last week a man was arrested in NYC for making bombs. He got the instructions from an Islamic terrorist magazine called Inspire. He got inspired to make potentially devastating bombs.

I love this quote

"Words are Words.
Thoughts are Thoughts
Ideas are ideas
Action is just action
Results are the Only Reality"

What do you think?

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The Nature Of Love

For twenty years I have walked the planet speaking about love, inspiration and heart in life and in particular, business. Thousands of keynotes, tens of thousands of personal meetings, retreats, blogs and books, and yet, here, in a few minutes an old wise man and a young child say more than I could have dreamed.

Make Love Not Worker's Compensation

Here are a few suggestions to make sure you are not bringing stress to bed.

1. Turn off the TV at night.. It’s not adding value.
2. Sit with your lover face to face and just be silent for a while each night before bed.
3. Do a “thank you for my day” prayer with your lover each morning in anticipation of the day ahead and in gratitude for the day past. Share this out loud and try to remember and imagine real events.
4. Make a collage on the wall not just of the kids school stuff but add pictures of where you, as a couple, plan to be, do and have in the future that excites you as individuals and as a couple together.
5. Separate love making and sleep time.
6. Make love when you are most energised not when you’re most exhausted
7. Don’t make excuses... You and your partner can overcome mental, emotional, spiritual and physical stress in order to be present in life for each other. Relationships are not the catch all for the crappy energy that’s left at the end of the day, quite the opposite.
8. Make love outdoors as often as possible. Just don’t wake the neighbours. 

Chris

 

Letting Go and Attachment - An Answer to A Great Question

Reader's Question ...

"I read your ezine article regarding and titled "Letting Go and Attachment". I specifically wanted to contact you to flesh our the concept of having no expectations in a person and therefore never having them unmet...is it really wrong to expect people to be humane and decent with us when dealing on an intimate level? Isn't that trust? How can you pursue a relationship without faith & trust? Your article was beautiful and heavy, just what I love. But I want to learn more in order to grow. Thank You."

My Answer

It's a beautiful question... one that has deep implicatoins.. If we are ready we will understand the answer, if we are not, it'll make no sense... so I'll try to be brief....

Money

Money can buy you the illusion of love but not love
Money can buy the illusion of happiness but not happiness
Money can buy you a partner in life but not a companion

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Want to Change the World? Start in Your Relationship

When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world: as I grew older and wiser I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change my country, but it too seemed immovable. As I grew into my twilight years in one last desperate attempt I  settled for changing only my family, those  closest to me. But alas they would have none of it! And now I realize as I lie on my deathbed, if I had only changed myself first, then by example I might have changed my family. From then, by example, I might have changed my friends. From their aspirations and encouragement I would have then been able to better my country, and who knows, I might have even changed the world. Inscribed on the tomb of an Anglican Bishop at Westminster Abbey 

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Do You Come Home From Work With More or LESS Energy Than You Left With In The Morning? If So, If The Answer is Less - Here's How to Reverse it.

Can you come home from work each day, five or six days a week with more energy that you went to work with in the morning?

Pride in burnout is no base for self gratification, in fact it's an early warning sign that you're in over your depth and if that incompetence doesn't lead to some inspired change, things are going to get nasty...

So, I think the ultimate test of Inspired Change is whether we can remain on top of our game by continually adapting and evolving our process. What worked yesterday for balance, may be toxic today...

The Best Day Of Your Life ... What is Going to Be The Key Factor?

One day a client asked me "why am I single" and I replied, "because you perceive that being double will be more painful than being single" .. "

That can't be right" she said, "I love being in a relationship" 

"With Whom" I asked knowingly

"With the man of my dreams that will come my way" She replied almost fainting in anticipation

"And what will help you know when you meet that Mr Right?" I asked cautiously

"I'll feel fantastic, sexy, wonderful and he'll treat me like he loves me so much"

Enter human nature.... more pleasure than pain... 

And that's what I call motivation... simply create an expectation of something pleasureful in the future then crawl over broken glass to get what we anticipate will be the most pleasure filled outcome we can dream of.

Be A World Champion Lover - It Starts At Work

Sexy people are born at work. The energy that is sexy and intimate at home comes from inspiration, purpose and vision at work. So, I'm not talking about those who are great lovers for the honeymoon and then burn out after a few months. I'm talking about those people who are incredible in bed and out of it. A partner in love, inspired and delicious in life.

Lets see what I'm talking about in the following blog post.

Inspired Relationships - Finding and Keeping A Life Partner

This article is written for single people wanting to become double, and double people wanting to stay that way.

Single people often work long hours, play sport to excess, have friends that fill their social life and watch huge amounts of TV. All of which makes for double trouble if and when a relationship starts. It means either the relationship must fit into a lifestyle where romance has been absent, or, it means a lifestyle must change radically in order to accommodate a relationship. Either way, radical change means a lot of pressure on a relationship to work, and that, by definition, is what kills them. Instead, if you are single and wish to become double, follow a few nature based principles while you are single in order to make being in a relationship more likely.

Resolving Problems instead of Solving Problems - The Key to Happiness

Unhappiness is not solved by happiness ... it is resolved by thankfulness for what is as it is.
Depression is not solve by elation .. it is resolved by realistic expectations.
Anger is not solved by peace.. it is resolved by perception shifts.
Loneliness is not solved by companionship .. it is resolved by self-worth.
Frustration is not solved by holidays or work life balance... it is resolved by evolving.

Confusion is not solved by clarity ... it is resolved within the human heart.

Nature's laws bring nature to high rise offices, TV addicted children and relationships that struggle for balance. Nature's laws can bring a new understanding of an old theme, that really, our humanity is grounded in the balance of nature...


In understanding nature's law, we understand that happiness is over-rated because it is so often external. 

We use happiness to overcome so many of our daily opportunities to move forward as a human being.

Happiness, or the hunt for it, makes righteousness and self-obsession legitimate. We must be careful.

Fulfilment, contentment, inspiration and inner peace are far more authentic and sustainable aspirations. Of course, it just depends a bit on where we are at in our life.