New Business - No Compromise - Unedited from Draft of New Book

There’s a million ways you can manage yourself and your work - life balance but there’s only a few ways that you can do it without compromise. The following pages present some ideas, but this in no way meant to represent all of the possibilities.

Paul was an employee of my firm doing work experience and completing his MBA from Europe. He’d been married just 6 months and they were really happy. However, at work Paul was so keen to please, and over time I began to notice changes taking place in his behaviour

Each day Paul left the office later and later. He was gradually stooping in his posture and looking less inspired everyday. I asked why and he said his home life wasn’t going well. He explained that his partner was untidy, lazy and wasn’t happy living in Sydney. She had nothing to do and had become really needy. I asked Paul what his real mission was in his life and what he valued most in his relationship. He replied, “I committed to being a good partner, to making my wife happy, to doing my job well and earning a good income to support us and have a family in the next years.

I asked Paul to go through his day. What was he actually doing in his daily routine? And guess what? Yes, everything he believed in and valued was in compromise. I asked him why and he had 50 excuses. Like it’s temporary, it’s hard for his wife, it’s a new job and with this I got really angry with him. “Paul, you’ll go on making these stupid excuses until your wife leaves, your company fires you, and you find yourself compromised in every dream you want in your life. Stop now. Sit down and think it through, how can you have what you want? No excuses. Think it out and come up with some ideas, I want to hear them in one hour or you’re fired.”

I’m going to share the list he wrote because it made me tear up right there in the office in front of him.
Paul wrote, “I can do this job in half the time if I really try and I can do it brilliantly. I can stay home in the morning and, clean the house and do the things I want my wife to do so that I stop complaining to her. It’s just not her thing. She can come with me to the office so we enjoy the journey. She can fill her time looking around the city or going to galleries or the library – she loves books and photography so, she can have my camera and we’ll come home each night and work on those photos in my computer. I will love her by helping her love herself, her passions. I can cook each night with her, and we can dance around more. Like we used to. We can cut alcohol and drugs out of our life and be really healthy; I know she’d love that. I want to do this. I am just afraid that you’ll cut my pay because I work less hours. ”Can you imagine how I felt? Here’s a young man talking from his heart about the life he would love to live and he’s asking if I’d love to help him. I simply changed the performance structure of his job, set him goals and gave him the space to do it. He used his mobile phone, and we paid the account so he could be contacted if we needed him. My goodness is this life or is this life? Fantastic. No compromise.

At work, there’s no need to compromise yourself. Just take responsibility for everything that happens and don’t give yourself justification for treating others badly. Begin with respect for everyone, whether they deserve it or not and carry it through to all your dealings with people. Keep your chin up at all times and, don’t let your mood run your life. You have great power to affect your state of mind, and you can hold yourself accountable for the way you impact people.

I’ve put enough self-management tools in this book to make compromise a thing of the past. You can do the worst job with the toughest people in the most challenging circumstances, with a smile on your dial if you learn this gift. Try not to read it all and then “bring compromise” back with you, because then the power of creativity is lost, you might not have the energy to think up new ways to do old tricks. You must use the intensity of no compromise to treat people as you’d love to be treated. Use the energy to get more work done in less time. Avoid being the cause your own suffering.

In your relationship don’t compromise. In relationship every compromise in the standards for your romance, your intimacy and turning up is a nail in the coffin of the relationship. It’s a deep nail because it goes straight into your heart. There’s no need to compromise. You have the skills right here in this book to turn up 100% in your relationship and at least, if you slip, to know it and warn your family in advance that you’re too dumb to sort out your own mind. No excuse, none.