Innerwealth - Putting the Heart and Soul Back into Business

The Nature Of Love

For twenty years I have walked the planet speaking about love, inspiration and heart in life and in particular, business. Thousands of keynotes, tens of thousands of personal meetings, retreats, blogs and books, and yet, here, in a few minutes an old wise man and a young child say more than I could have dreamed.

Make Love Not Worker's Compensation

Here are a few suggestions to make sure you are not bringing stress to bed.

1. Turn off the TV at night.. It’s not adding value.
2. Sit with your lover face to face and just be silent for a while each night before bed.
3. Do a “thank you for my day” prayer with your lover each morning in anticipation of the day ahead and in gratitude for the day past. Share this out loud and try to remember and imagine real events.
4. Make a collage on the wall not just of the kids school stuff but add pictures of where you, as a couple, plan to be, do and have in the future that excites you as individuals and as a couple together.
5. Separate love making and sleep time.
6. Make love when you are most energised not when you’re most exhausted
7. Don’t make excuses... You and your partner can overcome mental, emotional, spiritual and physical stress in order to be present in life for each other. Relationships are not the catch all for the crappy energy that’s left at the end of the day, quite the opposite.
8. Make love outdoors as often as possible. Just don’t wake the neighbours. 

Chris

 

Letting Go and Attachment - An Answer to A Great Question

Reader's Question ...

"I read your ezine article regarding and titled "Letting Go and Attachment". I specifically wanted to contact you to flesh our the concept of having no expectations in a person and therefore never having them unmet...is it really wrong to expect people to be humane and decent with us when dealing on an intimate level? Isn't that trust? How can you pursue a relationship without faith & trust? Your article was beautiful and heavy, just what I love. But I want to learn more in order to grow. Thank You."

My Answer

It's a beautiful question... one that has deep implicatoins.. If we are ready we will understand the answer, if we are not, it'll make no sense... so I'll try to be brief....

Money

Money can buy you the illusion of love but not love
Money can buy the illusion of happiness but not happiness
Money can buy you a partner in life but not a companion

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Want to Change the World? Start in Your Relationship

When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world: as I grew older and wiser I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change my country, but it too seemed immovable. As I grew into my twilight years in one last desperate attempt I  settled for changing only my family, those  closest to me. But alas they would have none of it! And now I realize as I lie on my deathbed, if I had only changed myself first, then by example I might have changed my family. From then, by example, I might have changed my friends. From their aspirations and encouragement I would have then been able to better my country, and who knows, I might have even changed the world. Inscribed on the tomb of an Anglican Bishop at Westminster Abbey 

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Do You Come Home From Work With More or LESS Energy Than You Left With In The Morning? If So, If The Answer is Less - Here's How to Reverse it.

Can you come home from work each day, five or six days a week with more energy that you went to work with in the morning?

Pride in burnout is no base for self gratification, in fact it's an early warning sign that you're in over your depth and if that incompetence doesn't lead to some inspired change, things are going to get nasty...

So, I think the ultimate test of Inspired Change is whether we can remain on top of our game by continually adapting and evolving our process. What worked yesterday for balance, may be toxic today...

The Best Day Of Your Life ... What is Going to Be The Key Factor?

One day a client asked me "why am I single" and I replied, "because you perceive that being double will be more painful than being single" .. "

That can't be right" she said, "I love being in a relationship" 

"With Whom" I asked knowingly

"With the man of my dreams that will come my way" She replied almost fainting in anticipation

"And what will help you know when you meet that Mr Right?" I asked cautiously

"I'll feel fantastic, sexy, wonderful and he'll treat me like he loves me so much"

Enter human nature.... more pleasure than pain... 

And that's what I call motivation... simply create an expectation of something pleasureful in the future then crawl over broken glass to get what we anticipate will be the most pleasure filled outcome we can dream of.

Be A World Champion Lover - It Starts At Work

Sexy people are born at work. The energy that is sexy and intimate at home comes from inspiration, purpose and vision at work. So, I'm not talking about those who are great lovers for the honeymoon and then burn out after a few months. I'm talking about those people who are incredible in bed and out of it. A partner in love, inspired and delicious in life.

Lets see what I'm talking about in the following blog post.

Inspired Relationships - Finding and Keeping A Life Partner

This article is written for single people wanting to become double, and double people wanting to stay that way.

Single people often work long hours, play sport to excess, have friends that fill their social life and watch huge amounts of TV. All of which makes for double trouble if and when a relationship starts. It means either the relationship must fit into a lifestyle where romance has been absent, or, it means a lifestyle must change radically in order to accommodate a relationship. Either way, radical change means a lot of pressure on a relationship to work, and that, by definition, is what kills them. Instead, if you are single and wish to become double, follow a few nature based principles while you are single in order to make being in a relationship more likely.

Resolving Problems instead of Solving Problems - The Key to Happiness

Unhappiness is not solved by happiness ... it is resolved by thankfulness for what is as it is.
Depression is not solve by elation .. it is resolved by realistic expectations.
Anger is not solved by peace.. it is resolved by perception shifts.
Loneliness is not solved by companionship .. it is resolved by self-worth.
Frustration is not solved by holidays or work life balance... it is resolved by evolving.

Confusion is not solved by clarity ... it is resolved within the human heart.

Nature's laws bring nature to high rise offices, TV addicted children and relationships that struggle for balance. Nature's laws can bring a new understanding of an old theme, that really, our humanity is grounded in the balance of nature...


In understanding nature's law, we understand that happiness is over-rated because it is so often external. 

We use happiness to overcome so many of our daily opportunities to move forward as a human being.

Happiness, or the hunt for it, makes righteousness and self-obsession legitimate. We must be careful.

Fulfilment, contentment, inspiration and inner peace are far more authentic and sustainable aspirations. Of course, it just depends a bit on where we are at in our life. 

 

The Most Expensive Seminar on Earth is A Hospital... Evolve Your Relationship

I am sure you remember the cycles of nature from our past sharing, but for the sake of those new to our work with personal change for global harmony, I'd like to go over it quickly again. 

Nature's cycles of grow predict stock market trends, real estate price surges, the right time to launch business plans, and, at a personal level the cycles of support and challenge. All good stuff to have a firm grip on.

To begin with we remember that nature - nor us because we are a part of nature, never grows in straight lines. and with that we are left to ponder whether those not straight lines are predictable? The answer is yes.

Without A Doubt

The personal who lives and breathes without doubt is sadly missing some of the greatest spiritual and personal gifts available to humanity. Those include humility, kindness, compassion and love.. But they don't stop there.

Doubt is our deepest and closest spiritual guru. It can warn us when we have become hard headed, it can warn us when infatuation replaces love, it can warn us when enthusiasm, separation or even self sabotage is replacing wisdom. Therefore doubt must be welcomed into our authentic lives.

What Do I Have to Do To Make You Love Me? Nothing it Seems...

Did you hear the song "what do I have to do to make you love me?"
I heard it. I heard it from the age of three. I heard it over and over and over. I actually sang it every morning, noon and night. 
"what do I have to do to make you love me?"
I tried damn hard too.. I danced, I was nice, I went wild...I performed, shut up, dug holes, washed cars, bought clothes, made money, licked and kissed and rowed a boat... "what do I have to do to make you love me?" ... and as it turns out ... a lot.

Sex, Love and Intimacy - What Sort of Relationship to Do Want?

I, like you, have a loving heart. 

At first it wasn't safe to show it in public so I searched for a wife to focus it on. Everybody else could go jump in the creek.. I was 14 years old. By 18 I'd found her, by 19 we were living together in a derelict house, going to uni and doing anti Vietnam War protests. I missed the call up but wouldn't have gone.

My loving heart spread out. We had children..

But my loving heart did not always find a big enough audience in this family situation. I started to explore how to bring my loving heart to life. I did, but that affair wrecked the family. I needed another way and this blog post is an attempt to describe what I discovered.

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I discovered that I can't love one person and judge another. That, in fact, when I bottled up our love into one partner instead of the greater world around me, I loaded my relationship with lots of pleasing pleasure filed days, but I also contaminated my relationship with just too much of a burden. It was asking too much and it didn't survive.


I discovered that my loving heart was quite conditional. So my love was all contaminated with all sorts of my own unfulfilled life. I tried to replace living a happy life with living a happy relationship and that's an unsustainable  contradiction.

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Inner Peace

I love being inspired and to achieve this wonderful creative state, I need as much inner peace as I can get.. Here's how:
I include things: By concluding that everything has its place in nature, and finding it, I become undisturbed by stuff and the further down this path I travel, the more inner peace and therefore Inspiration I enjoy.
Some people prefer right and wrong rather than inclusiveness. So, I include these right and wrong people in my picture model of life. I remain inclusive.
Stupid people, violent people, mean people, dark energy.. I include too... 
I prefer to be inclusive because exclusiveness leads to no inner peace.
I think fundamental religion and righteousness leads to the opposite of inner peace. Being right means exclusiveness and exclusiveness eliminates the opposition. With this strategy, there is no inner peace.

Gandhi used to claim that if someone insulted you, and you agreed that their insult was a valid statement, it was a way of handing the insulter back their insult. You just accepted it. 
I do this by saying "I am everything" and this is helpful when I wish to be inclusive to maintain my inner peace.
Inner peace is a good thing
I like inner peace because it's a place of giving. If I have inner peace I feel complete and relaxed, fulfilled and nourished so, I don't want much.
I think the statement "I need nothing, want nothing and therefore I have everything" leads to inner peace.
Contentment
At the foot of Inspiration is inner peace. It is a stillness that comes from taming the wild tiger that is my body, and defeating the taunt of my ego to be better or worse than others. I spent more time trying to achieve the latter.
At first I tried to defeat the ego by disciplining it. But this didn't work in every day life, it was based on models of good and bad and I ended up just reshaping my ego to become a yogi or meditator or whatever. 
So, I found a way to find a good relationship with my ego... I found wrong in what my ego said is right and I found right in what my ego said is wrong. I know this sounds like a MF but the spin leaves my ego powerless. I became inclusive.
Oh, there are still situations where I become exclusive and lose myself. I still judge Gadaffi and others like him. I am no saint but I am far, far, far down the track of contentment, inner peace and inclusiveness than I was before. And this, I think, is a good way to include my own incompetence in my model of life. 
I am, in short, a work in progress - and while I have a body, will continue to be so... I hope.

How are You Feeling and Can You Change it - Anytime... Anywhere?

Feelings come from interpretation. If we feel good, it's because we are interpreting the world around us, or inside of us as good, pleasureful and maybe even positive.
If we feel bad on the other hand it is because we are interpreting the world around us and inside of us as bad, painful, unpleasant or negative.
Feelings are therefore quite personal because what makes one person feel good is boring to another person. What makes one person feel bad is not so bad to another person.
So, although feelings are generic, the source of those feelings isn't. Or, in more clear language, our interpretation of the world around us, and inside of us is very individual. 
The question is therefore put: "Can we change how we feel about something?"
And the answer is a categoric yes.... Absolutely... Read on

Teachers are Meant to Be Stepped on Not Stopped on

Teachers are meant to be stepped on, not stopped on...that's why the teacher needs to be a student... so the teacher is learning faster than his or her students.

If your family, partner, friends and colleagues are not listening to you, it's because you got stepped on. You stopped learning. 

You don't need to learn about everything. Just where you want people to listen. If you want people to listen to you talk about computers, then you better be a student in computers. 

Simply in nature, if you don't add value, you don't lead.

Tranquility... the Root of an Inner Smile and Outer Beauty

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Remember: an outer smile is wonderful, it produces nice crows feet at the sides of your eyes. It makes your cares and expectations vanish for a moment or two and brings you out of your head... an inner smile, it puts a small smile in the corners of your mouth, it softens your eyes, it soothes your skin making you look younger, it opens joints in your body to improve flexibility, it improves cardio vascular function, it generates great heart lung response, it straightens your spine, it helps with healthy mind ease, it calms nerves, it relaxes tension and it opens your heart to a more abundant way of thinking....

 

Why Knowing Your VIP makes You Happy

V.I.P .. Vision, Inspiration and Purpose makes you Happy.

It opens your heart, balances your lifestyle, gives you a long term strategy with a moment to moment process. The secret of success in love and career.

I learned V.I.P from nature, but got the skills from Buddhist monks in Nepal, Mikmac elders in Canada, Shaman in Asia and Yogis in India - thousands of years of wisdom distilled through trial and error.

This is why VIP vision, inspiration and purpose makes you happy.

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The Best Relationship

If you are an idealist then this blog post probably won't please you. It's written by a realist for those who would rather have a real relationship in their hands than a fantasy one in their mind.

The best relationship comes when you don't really need one.

That's a bottom line. If you need a relationship something is stuffed up and sadly relationships don't solve stuff ups. You can have a short term relationship to fix stuff ups but long term, you need to look after yourself... In other words, turn up happy.

Happiness is the first responsibility in life, then comes the happiness of others. A person who flips this around to sound like the happiness of others is a path to their own happiness is going to be exhausted. It sucks the marrow from your bones.

But self happiness is not so easy. Firstly, it requires deprivation and discipline, something most of us thought we could do without in order to be happy. Secondly, it's vulnerable, rarely permanent and certainly complex.. Let me explain this second point.

Stuff makes us happy. There's stuff we have and there's stuff we feel, there's stuff we want and theres stuff we've got. See how complex it already is? Stuff makes us happy, short term, but it doesn't last long. Feelings make us happy, but feelings that come from what we eat, love, do, have and give are still temporary because the minute we stop doing all that, we lose the happiness.

Contentment is at the root of long term happiness. Thankful for what you've got. It's not easy to be thankful, I mean the new iPad is coming soon and will you be happy with the old one?

Contentment runs deep, below all that. Contentment is not a satisfaction with what you've got, it's an appreciation for li inspire of it.

The key is VIP .. A vision that's bigger than you, inspiration that's greater than circumstance, a purpose that's constant and never changes... Do you know your VIP - it makes you magnetic in love... No one will ever leave a man or woman who is on purpose with their VIP.

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Problems and How to Solve Them

What lurks behind? Just deserts

Problems are a part of life. A person without a problem is dead. 
So, if you have a problem thank your lucky stars, you are definitely alive and well.
The only question is whether that problem is getting you down. Is it?
If the problem is getting you down, it's not because of the problem, don't blame the problem - the problem is innocent. The problem is just a problem...
If a problem is getting you down, it's because you are not asking the right question.

99% of the solution to all problems comes from asking the right question.

Nature Stomps on Those Who Become Complacent

The opportunities to make a difference in the world exist within the boundaries of our own lives, professional and personal. Those changes require that we step beyond the academic and put ourselves back in touch with our true nature and provide opportunity for the expression of that vision.  


Only those who invest time and effort in personal alignment with these changes will do  well. Those who assume they can cause other people and organisations to change while they themselves stand still will not be effective. Their understanding of new forces will be inadequate. Their decisions will be unrealistic. 

Don't become shark bait, stay inspired, get back to nature as your guide. 

Do What You Love and Love What You Do... Get Results .. Get Inspired

For many years I have consulted with people who are keen to live and work as effectively as possible.

Some want it on a platter, some want it bad enough to put in the work, and when they do, the results are phenomenal.

Through personal coaching, time in retreats or corporate training, my clients become moved by an expansive vision. They become fascinated by life and driven to experience it fully. They learn to respond well to change although they do not necessarily like it. They get skills to think clearly when information is uncertain and belief structures are impaired. They see connections between a fast moving world and their vision, and they have open and receptive state of mind that is not paralysed by information they had not expected. By the time we finish, they have mastered the art of working with people and are able to communicate honestly pursue compelling vision and engage with integrity. And, they come home from work with more energy than they left with in the morning and do well by bringing home a huge love of life to share.

Simply, you have to break the mould... and that's the essence of my coaching....

Sense Debt - What Makes You a Bad Lover and How to Fix it

There are many ways to get into debt in your life. Money is just one of them. 
Sensory debt is another.
Sensory debt comes when we are so busy that we don't even taste our food, feel the warmth of the wind, smell the salt in the ocean air or hear the giggle of a baby's laugh.
Busy people often get sense debt.
Sense debt causes a breakdown in our humanity. It means our decisions are not relevant and our choices limited to emotional reaction. Sense debt makes us hungry for sex or food or power or spirituality. Sense debt is therefore a real problem.

Mathematics gone mad

I worked with a company who did an engagement survey. What ever happened to looking into people's eyes?

I worked with a group who wanted to be type cast as a YNTJ or a JNPD personality. Whatever happened to observation and authenticity?

I worked with a community who half taught people things but couldn't teach them the truth. Whatever happened to compassion.

I worked with a couple who were hoping their marriage would last. Whatever happened to intuition?

Along the way, we've lost something precious, something human, something natural. We gave our power to theorists and mathematicians and marketing people and forgot to be human.

The cause is not the blame of the engagement psychologist who feeds their family on the ignorance of corporate leaders. The blame is on us. We are so fast, so busy, we don't feel and if we do, we question it.

Slow down, feel and trust that.

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Head Space

There are tens of thousands of studies, millions of data points and trillions of testimonials about how your head space affects your health, energy, wellbeing, success and relationship love.

There are probably an equal number of self-help gurus sharing the secrets of maintaining that head space in the best possible, most productive, loving and health giving state.

Rarely however do their process work even when their ambition is very similar to the next guy. Basically the reason why mind space management is so poorly taught, is that rarely do the teachers challenge the political correctness of the society that feeds them.

Take for example the idea of joy. I am committed to seeing joy in everything. I could, if I listened to some gurus or psychotherapist try to cut out the unjoyful stuff from my life. That wouldn't work because unjoyful stuff just pops up again somewhere else.

I could listen to the Religious bunch who promise if I comply with their rules (note divine intervention) joy will be forthcoming. (as long as I behave myself) ... Hmmm seems like something I've heard before.

However there is a better way based on Nature's Law. My mission suddenly becomes to see any situation - no, all situations, as both unjoyful and joyful. I see both and focus on the joyful side.

Now, it's not that hard because I've got a great mind and I think before I think. So, it's more often than not that I'll see the downside of something - hence, in 99% of cases my head space adjustment is to see the benefit of things I see as unjoyful. Rarely the other way around.

Since 1997 I have been able to see the joy in every event in my life. That's pissed a few people off because, well, frankly, there's a social stigma about seeing joyfulness in sad situations, but I do. So, stigma or no stigma, I find benefit in everything and that helps me appreciate it, which is the spark that ignites joy.

This skill is most important in love.

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Time is not a God Either

How much can you squeeze into an hour? My clients often try to squeeze two days into one. It feels productive, it feels progressive, it feels right, but it isn't.

In the early part of last century, it was right. Now it's not right. We have new ways to see, feel and do things. More done in less time may actually be doing less.

For example if you cram your day so hard that your immune system breaks, or your relationship becomes mechanical or you don't really have time to become at one with whatever you do, maybe time has become a new God for you.

In NYC where I lived down on Broadway near 13th st... The pace of life slowed down to a hurricane .. Whereas when I lived on the upper west that pace doubled. Even in one city pace and time and value were measured differently. Even ten years ago this may have been appropriate because the more we value time, the more we value the opportunities it presents and therefore the more we can create, achieve, manifest and celebrate on a material level. So, slow places were often less wealthy ones.

But that's all changed... We don't have to hurry to make money any more and self worth has become unhinged from time worth... A great article that explores this can be found here...

http://www.npr.org/blogs/13.7/2011/09/27/140818962/beyond-the-punch-clock-life-the-tyranny-of-modern-time-ii?sc=fb&cc=fp

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Conscious Considerations in Separations

I met with a guy the other day who has been divorced twice and each time just gave his wife everything of their material wealth in their separation. He just walked away from his money.

I asked him about it and he shared an interesting insight: that for most people money is their God, and that, by walking away from 100% of his wealth, he felt great about the separation, and his children from both circumstances, and his ex, thought good of him for it which, resulted in him feeling right about making the money back again really quickly, without much trouble.

I look back at my own divorce where a court decided our settlement and it was more than I wanted to give. So I felt betrayed by the court, resentful about the settlement and caused my ex to be bitter about the generous amounts she received. All she remembered was the fight, the ugliness of my worship of money over friendship, and all I remembered was being an arsehole, and being cheated by the court during the cruelty of our fight.

Unlike my friend I didn't quickly make the money back because I felt like a real prick, felt angry, felt bitter about the settlement and felt like a loser over the disempowering circumstance. In retrospect, money was my God and i put it before the welfare of my children.

You see, the bitter taste I put in my ex wife's mouth was what she remembered when it was my time to pick up the kids, to have my time, to enjoy being their father. All she could remember, in spite of the generous court decided percentage of our wealth was how hard I'd made it for her to break clean and how I'd used the money to, in some way, "punish" her for our circumstance.

In 2009 I think it was, Julia Gillard the Australian Prime Minister gave every Australian a bonus payment of around $1,000. Most people spent that freebie on electronic goods like TV sets and other white goods which were 99% imports, so the money, I think $30 Billion dollars, blew away overseas to China and a few Aussie retailers made a buck or two in the process. So, you could say, it was a waste of money.

But one thing came of that bonus, and that thing was confidence. Australians were basically told that while the world was sinking in a Global Financial Crisis, we were flush, confident and buying TV's. Her strategy, or that of Federal Treasurer Wayne Swan, more than stimulate the monetary economy of Australia, stimulated confidence, gave some emotional stimulation to a country, like others in the World, on the brink of trouble.

By arresting the emotional sinking, Australia's Government arrested the real sinking of the economy. Our emotions, how we feel about ourselves and our money is deeply routed in our ability to earn more, to drive through troubles and uncertainty. And that's why I think, in retrospect my friend who gave his ex wife a "more than she expected deal" .. voluntarily and willingly without resentment, acted more in the interests of his children, than I did in my divorce settlement.

Money is a God, especially to those who fear losing it. Money is, for a single mum, a whole different icon that it is to a single dad, no matter how you see it, somehow there's a difference in the value of it. Money given by decree is vastly different money to money voluntarily given in consciousness. A generous settlement in a separation will result in a "Gillard" affirmation of positive memory and that, frankly, is the best gift a separating father can give to his children (or child!).

Feeling like an arse, or having an ex who treats you like an arse because of the fight that had to have to get their "perceived value" in a "letting go" process will cause more poverty than any divorce settlement you can imagine. I cost me years of my life and millions of my potential wealth.

Conscious separation means "leave a great taste" in the mind and heart of those you are separating from. Stay positive about your goodness and kindness. Cause an indelible memory of generosity, warmth and appreciation. And, don't be attached to how that percentage of your wealth is used or abused. It's not yours.

Finally, the future value of present money is small, so commit to the best settlement and a discretionary future commitment to outgoings rather than err to the opposite. For example, if the school fees for the next 10 years are $15,000 - give it in the settlement and negotiate how best to preserve it for use over the 10 years.

With Love and Inspiration to my Three Beautiful Children who see past the bitterness I caused by making money my God over everything else all those twenty five years ago,

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Libido, Love and Your V.I.P

Libido comes from buoyancy and buoyancy comes from hopefulness which comes from inspiration and inspiration flows from vision, vision only survives the test of time with purpose and therefore, purpose builds your libido.

People who have big libodo have V.I.P ...because when vision is large, and inspiration is strong, and there's a purpose to focus it, the whole human mechnism is working in perfect harmony, energy is conserved, presence is felt, and power comes in the form of mojo, libido.

There are substitutes for libido including drugs, sugar, alcohol and more.. but non are sustainable or attractive. Substitutes cause lust, attraction in the physical sense, but there's little power behind it.

V.I.P is lifeforce... libido and it shows in all levels of life - particulary sexual.

The Size of Your Vision Determines the Size of Your Relationship

When I lost my V.I.P - I lost my libido. It was 25 years ago and it flipped me into all sorts of reactive behavior.

When my libido got lost I turned to all the four substitutes to replace it. I turned to food and alcohol, greed at work, sexuality and flirting and spirituality.

The consequences were unsustainable lifestyle choices and bad romance at home.

The worse my real libido got the more I depended on substitutes. Until, eventually, I didn't know the difference between my real, deep, natural libido and fake.

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Why People Are Single and Stay that Way

There are three essential ingredients of all great relationships.
Vision .. Everybody has a dream in their heart
Inspiration .. We all want to feel good
Purpose ... WE need meaning

Relationships need to feed all three.

When the three ... V.I.P combine Vision, Inspiration and Purpose... we fall in love and feel committed to our relationships on all levels: mind, body and heart...

When we prioritize one of the three over the others we enter short term relationships. When we lose hope of any one of the three - or feel it threatened by relationships - we stay single.

Sometimes we lose our vision, or lose hope of fulfilling it and then we cling to inspiration as the only way to be happy, we start looking for an inspiring partner, and of course, nobody is inspiring to be with, 24/7.

Sometimes we lose our inspiration and we cling to vision as our way of staying happy. Then we choose a partner with a big vision but there is no way we can stay at their pace without our own vision and inspiration and we burn out.

Sometimes we lose our purpose in life, especially if we thought giving birth to our children was a purpose. It's not, life is bigger than that. Eventually anything that can be achieved is not our purpose, it's a vision. So, purpose is meaning and it can't come from religion, philosophy or anything that can be measured. Purpose comes to us, not from us and it comes in whispers to our heart. This is the main goal of a vision quest.. to find purpose.

So, it is often the cause of being single that we have either lost or misprioritised our V.I.P

The way to get back into love is to find the three in ourselves, become visionary, inspired and on purpose and there is an absolute guarantee, 1,000% that we will attract a partner, many partners, from that space. The only question you would have is: "are they in their V.I.P too"

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Tenacious Flexibility

When we climb a mountain, we're always looking for the best route. It's never a straight up walk. But we never give up. 
Sometimes you have to go down a bit to go up.
Sometimes you feel like you are making no progress.
It takes a tenacious approach to flexibility to live on purpose. So, today, be flexible about how things get done, but absolutely tenacious about getting things done.
The easy thing about climbing a mountain is that there is a top, no question, there's a peak and all else is between you and the peak. You just go around resistance.
But in your life.. Your VISION.. that peak shifts. Sometimes we get so dogged and determined on how we do stuff that we sacrifice the peak in order to be something special. We need flexibility so we adapt to stuff and hold the vision.
So, put in anchor points in your life so that you can't fall too far. Make sure your attitude is in the high end of the cone of consciousness... and that'll tell you that you are safe to flex, adapt and smile in the face of challenge. Just go around them.
We play Cricket in Australia. There's a bowler and he or she sends a ball made of hard leather at you and your job is to hit the bejesssus out of that thing and run like hell. But sometimes the bowler sends a real nasty throw and it bounces right at your head. You gotta know when to duck... flex .. move out of the way.. just let it go past without even trying to hit it. Tenacious flexibility .. in life is the same... just let some stuff happen, flex, smile and start climbing toward your peak. 
Easy when you're committed to tenacious flexibility... it starts with unjudging people

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Your V.I.P and the Difference To Hype, Elation and Emotion

If you run a team, family, community group, corporation, or, recognise that self-leadership includes a team of diverse interests called "You" then you'll for sure be aware that there are often trouble makers in every group.

Trouble makers are not always the worst performers but the troubles they create in management, attracting attention, recruiting dysfunction in any situation, including parenting, are often destructive and distracting to those who want to follow and do something inspirationally.

All trouble makers have lost their VIP. Future Vision. That is a 100% guarantee in family, community, team or group... and in you. Even the team of your mind, your body and your spirit can have diverse interests and it means that one of them sees no real investment in their future. Lost VIP Future Vision explains all dysfunction, in relationship it usually means one of a couple "got what they wanted."

You see, most people mistake big goals for future visions.. then set out to achieve what they want. After a few years they get what they want.. say 99% of people reach their goals in some form. But then they fail. Because once you achieve your goals and visions, you become a trouble maker... there's simply nothing to look forward to except more of the same.

If you ask a naturally free spirited child or most youth about the future their eyes light up. Even if that future is just tomorrow or the next party. They always have something to look forward to. But adults shrink and become trouble makers to themselves. Most illness and personal sickness comes from lost or worse still, achieved dreams.

The human spirit is a visionary bastard. It looks to the future and then asks mind, body to do whatever it takes to go there. And there is always a new future whenever an old one manifests. The enemy of the human spirit - and therefore the enemy of health, productivity, happiness and inspiration are hype and elation. These are how people try to deal with lost vision, they create fantasies of all upside situations and therefore become, troublemakers to themselves and others. 

Hype and elation lead to addiction, exhaustion, corruption, depression, fatigue, mental ilness, immune breakdown, poor decision making, and relationship dishonesty. 

Vision - VIP with balance leads to inspiration, authenticity, productivity, love, intimacy, attraction,

Why Knowing Your V.I.P is Important to Your Family

I’d like to share a story about me to give some insight into why your purpose matters.

I think it’s a spiritual thing but because I don’t know what that means, I’ll just have to rely on this story to convey the point.

I was born on the wrong side of the tracks. Stuff happened in my early years that set me on an angry path of self-destruction and wilful disobedience. It wasn’t pretty. Basically, you can say that I had no vision, didn’t trust tomorrow, and therefore didn’t invest in anything other than instantaneous gratification, no matter how bad it was for me.

By the time I was 14 I was at a cross roads. The high road or the low road and given how many of my good mates were dead or in jail, it wasn’t easy to choose. I took the high road. My Dad also made it easy by giving me an ultimatum, stay and take the high road or stay on the low road and leave home. I stayed.

What’s the difference between high road and low road? Well in retrospect I can see it clearly. High road means set goals and get ambitious to achieve something. Low road on the other hand is more primal, kill or be killed, survival of the fittest and let tomorrow take care of itself. That’s not to say that on the low road I didn’t have dreams and goals, it was just that when a choice had to be made between short term stimulation and long term sacrifice, I chose, stimulation.

I believe everyone has a dream and a vision in their heart and within hours of making my decision to quit the crime, mine was clear and vivid, straight from my heart. Build family, make heaps of money, achieve sporting celebrity and save the world... Not bad for a 14 year old delinquent. I even have the paper I wrote it all on to pin on my wall. 

The next twenty years went by in a flash. By the time I was 34 everything on the list was in my hands. A university degree, a massive and profitable business, three wonderful children, a family home with pool and acres of land. We had expensive international holidays, money in the bank and I was president of the school council.

With all this, one would think I’d be the happiest bastard in town. But I was not. I was dead miserable, drinking heavily, working late, having affairs and living two lives. And the whole cause of it was my good luck. 

You see, when a person fulfils their dreams, and does everything on their vision list, they need to create a new vision. We need that carrot on a stick, the motivation to expand and do great things with our life, but me, well I was so far in front of my 20 year old wildest dreams, I was in fairy land with no vision, no purpose. I was back on the low road although it was very well disguised.

The next five years were from hell. I went through a bad divorce, deep self loathing, gave away the business and was almost committed to a psychiatric hospital from a nervous breakdown. 

The path to recovery was terrible, clumsy, and to say the least, wasteful. But in the end, the thing that pulled me through and back onto the high road of life was finding a purpose greater than me from which a vision could grow and inspiration followed.

The confusion had been because one process had tried to inspire me without a purpose in life, another had tried to vision me with goals and daily routine without a purpose. It was all so fragmented, nothing worked until I put the three together ... 1. Find a Purpose greater than me... 2. Extract my vision from that purpose.... 3. Become inspired by 1 and 2.

That’s why knowing your Purpose is important....

It's hard to do good if you don't feel good

The key motives for doing personal mastery are:

1. To feel good
2. To help others to feel good
3. To make it feel good to be around you

To feel good

It's written that for a human being to feel good they need three things:
1. Someone to love
2. Something to do
3. Something to look forward to

To help others feel good

It's suggested that to make others feel good we need to inspire hopefulness in them:
1. Know what they want
2. Help them get what they want
3. Help them appreciate what they've already got

To make it feel good to be around you:
1. you need to be inspired by something greater than your own self importance
2. You need to look and feel good to be around
3. You need a whole lot of love for life in your heart

Are You Turning Up In Love, Work and Life?

To those who are ready no words are necessary. To those who are not, no words are possible. 

You might tell a child 1,000 times the same thing day after day and they might ignore you 1,000 times or 999 times. But if you close the door so they have no choice but to use the side door they might learn a new habit, then the telling is not required.

It is the same with Personal Mastery.

The telling is there, the teaching is given in Innerwealth Personal Mastery.. and you might hear it 1,000 or 999 times, But if there is something wrong in your life or work, or your relationship then you might learn the new habit, and no words are required. 

I teach all my clients the same words but some don't remember, so, I repeat them 1,000 times... Balanced, Centred, Calm... Balanced, Centred, Calm... and I do this because I didn't learn those words and the experiences that taught me those words by experience instead of listening, were awful and painful.

So, it's my compassion to keep saying those words over and over to those who have the time to listen. Balanced, Centred, Calm ... Balanced, Centred, Calm.

Self Confidence is Magnetic

A lack of confidence more or less defeats you.

It is therefore of significant importance to 

• Cultivate the Egoistic Nature -Self Esteem
• Practice Self-Reliance in opinions and action - Self Reliance
• Get used to handling difficult situations by acceptance and resolutely doing your best -Hardiness

Conscious Life - One Step Beyond Religion

 All things in nature gravitate toward a centre so, in developing the habits of a radiant centre you are obeying a Law of Nature.

In nature all things under normal conditions move toward some center-line of attraction. This tendency is an effort to realise the ultimate possibilities of its primal matter. While things are dispersed and fragmented they are noisy, turbulent but powerless.

In nature, chaos is countless - it is the undirected streaming out of energy, fire, water, air and ether dispersing the atmosphere. In-gathering of that energy and the unfolding of its expression is order, power and manifestation.

Inspire Hope

A glimpse of water arouses fresh vitality in a person dying of thirst.
The hope of employment fires a flagging brain of a disparaged individual.
Hope gives power.
Hopelessness steals it.
Hope gives electric power to the nervous system and tenses the brain to an alert receptivity for new news.
Hope therefore, opens people to change and growth. Hopelessness closes them.
A hopeful person welcomes and responds well to new unexpected information. 
You can cause others to welcome you, simply by inspiring hope in them. 
But first, you must achieve this in yourself.

There is an energy field surrounding each individual. You can feel it. This is what we call that persons vibration. We plus our feelings and beliefs through the atmosphere surrounding us and from this attract or repel.

Magnetic Health

 

Whatever depresses the natural health of the body is due, in some way to a change in electrical activity.

Molecules in the body respond to and are controlled by electrical activity and it is at this level that depressed natural health of the body takes place.

Whatever raises the tone of electrical activity in the body results in magnetic health and therefore freedom.

Influences that can depress the electrical activity of the body, and therefore lower natural health are: weather, environment, violence, gloomy surroundings, stagnant inner physical condition, disease, mind states such as sorrow, fear, worry. But the most spontaneous influences come from thoughts of hopelessness.

 

Parent or Partner - In Relationship Choose One

Parent .... Hi darling how are you? Are you happy? Is there anything I can do to make you happy? Oh, you have a problem, is there anything I can do to help you sort out your problem.

Partner .. Hi darling, you seem distracted. Do you need time to go sort your stuff out because this is not good enough.

Parent relationships are the most common.

They don't last and if they do, they're either hell cat fights, or boring as bat poo. I mean we spent most of our childhood looking forward to the freedom of being an adult and then, when we realise it's not all beer and yogurt out here, we what? We grab a partner who becomes mummy or daddy to us.

George Carlin on The Environment (HQ)

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30 Minute Telephone Coaching

You know that 99% of the solution to all life problems is in right diagnosis of the cause and that most people, when they face challenges spend months if not years trying to sort stuff out when it could have, should have been sorted in hours or, at most, days.

So, here's the offer: I'm going to do four, thirty minute telephone consults each day on a first in first served basis, that's one one one, confidential, anonymous if you wish, 30 minutes on any topic that's giving you grief and inn that time, I guarantee to find the cause, and ghettoes solution to you problem. I do not guarantee you are going to like what you hear but it will be spot on.

I'll charge a nominal fee of $99 through credit card. It's so powerful and simple.

Let's put our heads and hearts together and lower the stress by making sure challenges get resolved fully and fast, first time every time. Right.

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Changing Before You Have To ...Leading the Wave of Change or Getting Dumped by the Wave of Progress..

Learn the Skills of Being an "Exceptional Leader”

We live in revolutionary times and our lives are being altered in ways we cannot predict. Every major institution is being transformed. Our most deeply held values are in dispute and the nature of personal relationships is changing drastically. Our capacity to feed and house all the people of our world, to live our own healthy and useful lives, to work productively with others in diverse groups and cultures, and to pass on a decent world to our children, is being challenged. A solution to this challenge is to become an exceptional leader

Exceptional leaders are leaders in any field of life: Family, Work, Community

We all want change, in our own lives and others, to see the world as a better place. We want change and we want change to happen sooner rather than later. And yet, it so easy to become a part of the problem, running around frustrated, angry, dissappointed or even worse, dogmatic and self-righteous. So, becoming an "Exceptional Leader"  involves significant self-awareness, authenticity and self-sufficiency. It is not our job to show people the right way but rather guide them to their own authentic path.

 
Changing before you have to ...Leading the wave of change or getting dumped by the wave of  progress.

Now, more than amassed capital or technology or knowledge or connections, it is a flexible and inventive approach to life that will determine who recognises new resources, creates global impacts, builds humanitarian business and keeps their life and family in balance to enjoy the results. 

7 steps to being an exceptional leader in any field.. Family, Work, Community, 

1. Creating, understanding and being moved by an expansive vision. 
2. Being intrinsically fascinated by life and driven to experience it fully. 
3. Responding positively and confidently to change although they do not necessarily like it. 
4. Thinking clearly when information is uncertain and belief structures are impaired. 
5. Able to see connections between a fast moving world and their vision, and they have open and receptive state of mind that is not paralysed by information they had not expected.
6. Mastering the art of working with people and are able to communicate 
7. Honesty, authenticity and ability to engage with integrity. 

 

We train exeptional leaders: More than ever before the world needs leaders who carry and share the harmony and balance that nature offers. People are becoming separated from the very thing that keep us real, grounded, human and compassionate: Nature. So, to be more balanced, our society, communities and work cultures need leaders who can help Nature-Up a bit more. To help bring nature to the office, we share nature's laws.

Pinch myself

It's spring here in Aussie land and love is in the air. Pollen is also in the air so some people have allergies and I feel for them because it's hard to celebrate Spring and Love with a nose full of snott.

My local park is a buzz with friends and lovers enjoying the pre summer sun. Sun burn is also possible and I feel for those who overcook themselves in the midday sun and get skin cancer. It's hard to celebrate Spring and love with some illness like that.

Today, this early morning I had to pinch myself to make sure I wasn't just dreaming, the clouds were magnificent, the water was crystal, the air fresh and here I am in the middle of a busy city. But some people are busy on their way to work, running late, no time for Spring or Love today because it's Monday and they are running late. It's hard to enjoy the day with adrenalin pumping 24/7.

Mmmmmmm I sip my tea, do my
Work, celebrate Spring, and feel lots of love. Nothing to add, nothing to remove.

I have to pinch myself.

 

Judgement Day

Judgement day is today.
What you judge today, you create, attract or become in the future.
What you judge today you:
1. Create in your children
2. Attract in your partner
3. Become in yourself

You might say, "I never want to be with someone like my ex because they are so self obsessed. Then your children, your next partner or you are doomed to that destiny.

Be careful what you judge. Maybe even get past your hard headed rigidity and learn how to love people rather than judge.

Judging people backfires in another way too because everyone has every trait. The more you judge others the more you judge you. They are just a mirror. You might end up so boxed in with how you see the world there is no room in your heart to enjoy being you.

My children are grown up now, but everything I judged, good and bad in the world, they have become. So, one way or another I have learned to love what I once judged because I can't stop loving my chidden, no matter what.

To judge is human. To stay stuck on a judgement is religious doctrine. To judge and then unjudge, this is evolution. Try it, the results are quite wonderful.

Becoming An Agent of Change

I'm totally proud to announce our new online training program.

Becoming an "Agent of Change"

The program is 100% online video E-learning format, with video presentations by yours truly.

In this ten week, one hour a week graduated training I will reveal the world's best skills for becoming a master of change.

This program is both for leaders and for those working within systems that need change from the inside out.

There are three core focal points to the training program: